You would think staying at home would be good for my social life.
Perhaps you may even envision daily play dates involving kids running around, mothers rolling their eyes at each other in exasperation and sharing war stories of inventive ways their kids make their lives more difficult.
In reality if I hang out with another mommy once ever two weeks I'm doing well. Most of the time I'm at home with Sadie. Yes, we do go outside and I like to walk along the Carlsbad boardwalk for exercise. However, actually creating a time and day to hang out with another mom is extremely difficult.
Each kid naps at a different time. If a mom has more than one kid, then you have more nap times to juggle around. Then you need to factor in chores around the house, errands that need to be run and then you realize that the only way to spend time with each other is through texting and phone calls.
It can be very lonely being a mom.
I have a mommy friend that lives two houses down. She has two kids that both still nap. It is nearly impossible to find time to hang out. We text each other back and forth. One kid is awake, another is asleep. By the time both of them are awake my kid is asleep.
Likewise, it's super easy as a mom to get into a routine rut. Wake up, breakfast, play on the computer, run around the house cleaning up, lunch, nap time, more stuff around the house, more computer, work out, dinner, bed... it's hard to stop and spend time with a friend.
I'd like to become more proactive at it but when I have an agenda list a mile long it's hard to feel guilt-free hanging out with friends during the day.
I wish there were three of me. One to be social. Another to cook and clean. And a third to be Sadie's mom.
That's the solution, cloning.
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I'm a mom. A writer. A lover of good fantasy. A proponent of nursing when possible. A birth advocate. I am absolutely horrible at keeping my house clean or the dishes washed or the laundry done. I strongly believe in women having a positive birth. When we start to respect women's rights to birth the way they want, we can start to treat women as equal people in this world.
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