One of the biggest concerns I have regarding living in Israel is the Jewish custom of married women covering their hair.
Some groups expect women to cover their hair entirely, some are okay with only some of the hair covered, some wear scarves and others wear wigs. There is a great variety of ways to cover your hair; the only constant is the requirement you cover your hair when married.
Last time we visited Israel I covered my hair with a hat or a scarf whenever we went to a synagogue or a religious community. I did not want to stand out or offend anyone so I covered my hair out of respect for the customs followed by the people around me. It was almost a lark learning how to cover my hair with beautiful head coverings.
This time, it's different.
We are spending six months in Israel and Logan wants to go study in Yeshiva and he is encouraging me to study at a seminary. I am terrified of the idea that I will have to cover my hair for six months while in Israel. At this point in time I don't want to do it. I feel that if I cover my hair only in seminary or in synagogue and then walk around the community with my hair uncovered I will be seen as a hypocrite.
I don't know how to reconcile these two concepts - covering my hair sometimes and not pretending to be someone I'm not. I don't want to give the impression I always cover my hair when I am open to only covering my hair sometimes.
Also, this ties in with covering my hair, I don't know what to do about clothes while in Israel. I have full intention to dress modestly (down to my knees and to my elbows) while at synagogue and at a religious community; however, I don't intend to dress like that every day.
How can I live among religious people and still maintain my identity?
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